How to find the Wedding Officiant that is right for you

Identifying someone to officiate at your wedding can sometimes be a more daunting
task than finding your soulmate -- especially if you are not affiliated with a particular church or if you are marrying someone outside of your faith.  The key to finding an officiant who is in sync with you and your partner is to ask questions.  Your wedding should be a customized ceremony, reflecting who you are as individuals and as a
couple.  To do this, your officiant must understand your beliefs, your values, and
what makes your bond so special.  Since it is easy to get caught up in the details
of your reception, remember that your ceremony should be the most important
part of your wedding day – treat it with reverence and make sure the person who
will be performing your ceremony does too.
To avoid the cookie cutter approach to weddings, it is important to ask some essential questions of the person who will be officiating your ceremony.

How do they create the ceremony?  Do you have final approval over the script? 

Ideally, the officiant should collaborate with you every step of the way so that the ceremony is tailor-made for you.  Don’t let a boilerplate ceremony be imposed on
you. When will they arrive?  The officiant should be available at least 45 minutes
before the ceremony in order to run through any last minute changes, and to
coordinate details with readers, musicians, photographers and videographers.

Will you be interviewing our family members or friends? 

In order to really learn about who you are as a couple, an officiant should talk to those people who will be important in the ceremony, particularly the person who will be presenting the bride in marriage.

Do they provide thier own public address system?
If you are having your ceremony outdoors or in a venue that doesn’t often cater to weddings, you will likely need to bring in an outside PA system.  A good officiant will provide one for you and will be responsible for its set-up and use.

Will they vary the traditional choreography of a wedding? 
You may wish to face your guests rather than the officiant, or have the officiant stand to the side instead of between you and your spouse.  Make sure your officiant is open to these suggestions.

What training do they have in creating and officiating at ceremonies?
Many officiants have no specific training.  Look for those who have a sound background in the history of ritual and ceremony, knowledge of wedding traditions around the world, the ability to manage and choreograph a wedding party, and experience in public ceremonial speaking.

Will they work with our other wedding professionals?
The officiant should coordinate as needed with musicians to provide music cues for the ceremony, with photographers and videographers to assist them in getting the best shots, and with the staff of your venue to ensure that the ceremony will not conflict in any way with their requirements.

Will they provide us with a copy of our ceremony? 
The best officiants will create for you a keepsake copy of your final ceremony.